Have you ever heard this quote “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure?”

What do you think?

Well, who doesn’t want to succeed, right?

We all do, so we work hard to excel in life, but what is our motivation? Do we do it because our desire for success is great or our fear of failure is greater?

When I was a kid, I used to have high grades in school, and my parents bragged about it to everyone.
As time went on, I got tired of the burden, but my parents already had my future mapped out.

In their defense, they did ask me severally about my preferred career path, but I couldn’t make a choice, my constant reply was, “I don’t know.”

As I grew older, I got scared of the responsibility that came with being the best and the hard work I needed to achieve it. My academic performance was reducing because I stopped paying attention in class.

It might seem unserious to you, but as a child, I was 10 at the time, it was hard to keep up with the pressure.
It seemed like a lot of work and more in the future that I wasn’t ready to put in.

My grades came in, and it was mediocre because I did nothing to prepare for exams, unfortunately, I wasn’t too bothered at the time.

Fast forward to my teens when it was time to write exams for University admission. What happened?

I failed, again and again.
I kept failing. By failing, I mean my scores weren’t enough to gain admission to study the course my parents chose for me.

5 years later, I finally gained admission into the university; that year, I stopped aiming for success.

Before that, I was almost depressed. I mean, no one likes to fail, right?

So I decided to aim for anything that didn’t look like failure because the truth is, when you are at the lowest, even five inches above seems like the top.

And that was it.
I changed my course to one that had lesser requirements and I gained admission that year.

Ever since then, my only motivation was aiming for anything that didn’t have the face of failure.

Many times we go on search engines and type how to be the best _ I think the correct phrase should be how to not be the worst.

You put pressure on yourself by aiming for the best, for success, unfortunately, your mind now sees success as something to be feared.

But if you strive not to be the worst, you are inadvertently striving to be the best.

Why is this important?

Inherent in us are two fears, a fear of failure and a fear of success. That is why we get scared of trying new things and venturing into new paths because deep down, we fear success and the responsibilities that come with it.

Deep down, you fear the possibility that after aiming for success you might not achieve it, after the effort and hard work.

Which one propels you?

I know this because I have been there.

I saw the face of failure year after year when I couldn’t enter the university. I saw it every day in the sadness on my mother’s face. I saw it every day in the face of my mocking neighbours.

I couldn’t forget because life had etched it painstakingly in my mind.

So today I can say for a certainty that the quote at the beginning of this post is not entirely true.

The truth is that In order to succeed, your fear of failure must be greater than two things; your fear of success and your desire for success.

Check my recent post if you want to get some ideas on how to overcome the fear of trying new things.

If the top seems too far away or difficult, aim for any spot that isn’t the lowest. This is the first step on the path to excellence.

In essence, if the thought of trying to excel places too much pressure on you then it might be time to change your priorities. When you strive to not fail, you’ll get better results faster.

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Until another time, Au revoir.

©️ Geenha


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