“You are strong. You are beautiful. You are perfect, just the way you are.”
Positive talk is what they call it.
These are words the media uses to comfort people who are insecure about their looks, shape, size, emotions, personality and many other attributes.
Everyone has insecurities. But in the world, self-love talk means not admitting to our insecurities and supposed flaws.
What are insecurities?
I’ve never checked the dictionary for the meaning, but I’ve been insecure about a few things, and I still am.
So I’ll describe insecurities from my experience.
The first thing you might notice about me is my stern face, which I do not dislike. But you know how you have to smile, so no one will assume you’re upset or sad or angry and unfriendly.
So I thought to myself, Okay, I have to learn how to smile.
I did want to smile more, but I couldn’t because my teeth weren’t white and shiny.
I was very insecure about them. Anytime I saw someone staring at me when I smiled or laughed, I’d stop immediately.
I’d think to myself, Oh, they are staring at my teeth, probably thinking that I should stop laughing or people like me have no right to laugh and a lot of other bizarre thoughts.
This happened to me every single time showed my teeth.
I became obsessed with teeth whitening products. The next thing I knew, my gums were bleeding again (It always did when I was a kid). I had a toothache, and I couldn’t drink hot and cold liquids.
I knew I had to stop.
That was like ten years ago
Am I still insecure about my teeth?
Do I still cringe when I laugh?
Have I stopped laughing?
But you won’t hear me say my teeth are perfect because, in all honesty, they aren’t.
Yes, they are flawed, but they are my flaws.
Even if I am insecure about my teeth, it does not limit me from using and flaunting them in laughter whenever I want.
I hope you can relate to my definition of insecurities.
I do have a lot of them. I don’t know if you do too.
But I refuse to let my insecurities limit me from doing the things I feel like doing.
Because there is nothing, absolutely nothing, wrong with insecurities.